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Fine Lines.
I find it ironic that it’s sometimes the people who are against talking about feelings or self-reflecting that are the most emotional. In business, it can be challenging for subordinates or colleagues to approach these people with constructive feedback. It’s waiting until that person is in the right mood, reading the situation, treading lightly, and being deliberate with the words you say. While this typically applies in any situation, some (people and situations) are more sensitive than others. When developing new relationships, personally or professionally, the same approach applies. We walk fine lines. It’s not until a level of trust builds that we can be more direct. We often don’t…
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Disappointment.
The underlying theme for disappointment is unmet expectations. How true is that when you really think about it? When I’m disappointed in myself, I am usually left questioning, “What did I do wrong? How could I have done better?” When I’m disappointed in someone else, I’m usually left wondering, “If he would only…” 🙄 It’s harder for me to be disappointed in other people than it is to be disappointed in myself. At least when I haven’t met my own expectations, I can reflect to see if I laid my head and my heart on the line (logic and emotion). If I didn’t, I know to do better and can take steps toward improvement. Other people, well…it seems a lot of other people…
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Empathy.
I have a colleague that made a big mistake. Because of our roles and responsibilities within the company, I had to pick up the pieces of his fall-out. And I. was. pissed. about it. 😤 His poor judgment caused me additional stress and hours more of work. I made damn sure he knew all that I had to do to cover his ass. If I had to swoop in and rescue him, he was going to learn a lesson out of it. Now, he’s normally pretty up-to-snuff. After the dust settled a bit, I asked him how he was doing. Turns out, he took his mistake pretty hard. He felt terrible about it, guilty, and embarrassed. Additionally, he was going through a…
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The Bar.
Everyone has an opinion on my love life. And as much as I hate it, I also appreciate that so many people care about me and my happiness. But I get a lot of commentary that needs to be drowned out, mostly, because very few people actually know me truly well enough to have a valid opinion. Many of these comments have to do with my expectations, and that I’ve set the bar too high. Every time I hear one of these comments, it really bothers me. Even when said in a joking manner, it bums me out. 😔 I am so fortunate to have incredible men in my life. From…
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Expectations.
I had several conversations this week that essentially revolved around expectations. Each conversation was unique with different circumstances, different personalities, different goals, and different intentions. So when I said intentions don’t matter, I was kind of lying. But really, it all depends. In one conversation, we were talking about how a specific person has a reputation of over-promising and under-delivering. The consistent under-delivery has now become my expectation. Whether he cannot produce due to intentional or accidental circumstances, it doesn’t matter. The habit formed has shaped my opinion of him, and I now find him unreliable and untrustworthy. This will ultimately lead to a dissolution of the relationship, unless he…