Work-Life Balance.

Rachel Hollis says the work-life balance is total crap. She says that the media caught on to the phrase and overused it to the point that we believe it’s an achievable goal – when it’s not. I don’t think she’s entirely wrong.

I have a friend. I love him. He’s great. But every once in awhile he says something that makes me want to straight up punch him in the face. We’ll be talking about something, and he’ll say, “Well, you’re not married, and you don’t have kids.” While I try to casually let it go, my internal response is more a series of: 🤯😡😤🤬.

You guys – that is a low blow.

First of all, it’s not like I don’t want those things, so thanks for pointing out that I don’t have them (asshole 🙄). Also, it’s not like I don’t have family or friends or obligations or meetings or appointments. It’s not like I don’t have financial ties or budgets to follow. It’s not like I don’t have no persons (or pets) to consider in the decisions I make. It’s not like I have nothing of importance in my life.

But just because I’m not married and don’t have kids does not mean that I don’t struggle with the juggle. (That sounds entirely inappopriate, so I kept it.) It also does not mean that your priorities hold more value than mine; our priorities are just different.

Don’t misconstrue that statement either. Yes, I recognize that a child holds more value than a meeting – or whatever. What I’m trying emphasize is that it’s your child and my meeting. Our choices have led us down different paths – neither is better or worse than the other based on our individual needs and destined directions. Don’t overthink it – K?

A co-worker and I frequently talk about competing priorities. For example: the romaine harvest foreman’s tractor broke down, and his crew is not making their normal piece rate. Meanwhile, the automatic Brussels sprouts harvesting machine went down, and the crew has to hand-harvest the field. Each foreman thinks that repairs on their equipment should be completed first = competing priorities.

I struggled with juggling hunting season with day-job demands and side-hustle goals. Hunting was sacrificed, because too many other things that hold greater future value presented themselves. Work held more weight than personal life, and that’s okay. When I took back-to-back hunting trips to New Zealand then Texas, life held more weight.

I think we look at this work-life balance in a perspective that is too small. We are looking at it daily, weekly, or monthly, when we should be looking at it yearly, or biennially or whatever – just some greater timeline.

Life can change in a day or a minute, even. But life happens over time.

We shouldn’t put so much pressure on ourselves to live for the moment or plan our life out, because let’s be real: life is competing priorities. I think it’s more important to recognize when one side is getting heavier than the other and adjust accordingly.

And it’s not about equal time. Two days away in the quiet mountains reconnecting with nature can rejuvenate me for another two weeks of crazy. A half-hour workout at 5 am can pump me up to take on a hectic day. An hour-long session with my horse on a calm Friday evening is a great way to ease into the weekend.

It’s about quality not quantity.